Each and every time I write I leave it all down on the page, but also when I write especially on here it opens up even more emotion than I can physically express down on a page.
In this moment I still have more to say…
I wrote that last article as a passing statement, it took me 10 minutes to write because its something that has been in my thoughts for awhile now.
And as I shared that statement and then copied and created it into an article, something dawned on me.
I wrote within it a passage stating that many people have come into my life just as many people have gone.
One of the reasons so many people left was because they didn’t understand.
They didn’t understand depression, just as many thought they did and thought it was their place to tell me how I felt.
For those that don’t know, nobody knows what anyone else thinks.
It doesn’t matter if you are struggling with your mental health or not.
No one, absolutely no one knows how you feel.
They can sympathise, they can relate, but no one knows the workings of another human beings brain and thought process.
Absolutely no one!
Many people didn’t understand why I chose to write about my experience with depression and mental health.
Some have since changed their opinion and have seen how much it helps me.
Some still to this day don’t understand, they think it would better to write it down and not share it for the world to see.
Why did I do it?
Because it was right for me.
Almost 3 years ago I was in a position whereby I had come crashing down, broken, desperately broken and no idea how I could possibly fix myself when in the biggest reality I had no idea what was wrong in the first place.
I had a mind that felt like it wasn’t my own anymore, to feel helpless that you weren’t in control anymore, and that is truly petrifing beyond belief.
When family and friends tell you they will always be there for you, your family will always be there for you, and although I will always be grateful to them for the compassion, kindness and love they show, sometimes your family is just too close to unload all of your problems too, especially when you don’t know what is wrong yourself.
When it comes to your close friends, at that time I wished I had the courage to reach out, the many times I scrolled up and down my phone, over and over again, thinking who won’t judge me, who will understand, who will help me and then dismissing everyone because you can’t ruin someone else’s day.
That’s why when I talk about mental health now, and champion it, because believe me it is so, so important, you may just save a life.
It’s more than just encouraging the person to talk and open up, it’s more about society.
Anyone will reach out to anyone they love, like or care about once they know they are struggling.
But we as individuals need to take the pressure off those people who are suffering and reach out more, to talk about mental health more, to be more understanding and be more compassionate.
I did it the hard way, and sometimes, maybe most times in my life that’s the way I often do things.
But there is always an easier way to having the same life, the same control as the people you wish you were or the people you aspire to be.
The reason I write is because it gives me my control back, it gives me a release and it’s good for me that I do it.
Each article I write it allows me to get all of my emotions out, to write it all down and then do nothing with it, for me, I’ll be hiding it all away.
For me, that isn’t healthy, rewind 3 years ago and all the many other years I suffered in silence.
I couldn’t trust my mind, I constantly had to try and block out my thoughts, by writing especially at those times early in the morning 3am, 4am, when nobody is awake, I had to get my emotions out when I simply couldn’t sleep.
Every single word I wrote my blackness of my mind screamed at me not to go on.
No one would understand you.
Getting to an end, and my heart was pounding, I was sweating and eyes were full of tears, as they dripped down my face.
I chose to press publish.
And for me it was the best thing I ever did.
It helped me to gain some control, it helped me to understand, it helped with my recovery, and to this day each article I write, post and share helps me to process what a truly awful illness mental health is.
My closing statement to this is:
What you chose to do and the way you express yourself is yours to do.
It’s not about how anyone else thinks, stay true to you.